As parents, we often feel the need to examine our child’s learning, and there are various ways to measure the child’s performance on a particular subject. But have you ever imagined that there is an entire set of skills that cannot be measured or tested? Some of the examples are Soft skills, socio-emotional skills and personality-based skills.  Our technical skills may help us in finding a job, but it is our soft skills that influence all our major future outcomes.

The point about soft skills is that they function very differently than other types of skills, and we can’t just can’t play by the book at all times. The problem is not that we don’t know to how to apply these skills in our lives, the problem is that we don’t do what we already know about. The truth is, and that’s the bitter truth – you’re never going to feel like applying them. It’s something that your heart isn’t going to like much, but as they say, that greatness is in ‘doing things that you hate’. There is a 5-second window when you feel your inner instinct, your true calling, your purpose, and if you don’t act in those 5 seconds, then your brain is actually designed to kill it. Five seconds is all it takes!

Laziness, Procrastination, Jealousy, Anger, Negativity are all enemies of Soft Skills. In order to achieve a High Degree of Success in Soft Skills, you have to suffer. To achieve greatness, you have to sacrifice, and you have to suffer. I’ve never met a single person who was successful, but didn’t work hard to achieve his success, not one person. Same goes for soft skills, they are the hardest to learn, but they really are game-changers. Even if you apply 10% of these skills in life, it’s going to make a huge difference of the quality of your life. Consistency is the key – you have to be persistent.

Armed Forces are a great source of inspiration for people who wish to learn soft skills. Because it is not just about discipline, it is a lifestyle that you need to live with, you have to go against your mind. Don’t do something when you feel like doing it, instead do something in order to feel like doing it. Success is 20% Technical skills, and 80% Soft Skills. So no matter where you go, what you do, or where you’re from, these are skills that will help you progress in all spheres of life. Time Management, for instance, is something everyone seems to be knowing, but applying it is far from reality for many a person. You have to live life ‘One Day At A Time’. Every second is a passing opportunity, you just have to go for it and jump. I can guarantee you that when you first jump, the parachute is not going to open, but believe me – eventually it does open.

Money Management seems to be quite a daunting task for many, yet schools don’t teach these ever-important skills. Show me a child who knows how to save money, and I’ll show you an adult who doesn’t know how to write a check, or deposit cash in a bank. Kids these days have unlimited access to technology, and as a result to information. Due to this excess of incoming feelings and thoughts, kids must develop a routine that empowers their body, mind & soul consistently. You don’t fail when you go for something, you fail when you don’t go for something, and hold yourself back. In order to fully apply soft skills, kids must be the best version of themselves, because success is not measured by the good days, success is measured by the dark days, when you don’t feel like going for it. Success is measured by the degree of your discipline and consistency!

Take a look at Abraham Maslow’s need hierarchy, and you’ll realize that there is no reason why shouldn’t we teach our kids to achieve greater success in life, than just tangible study results. Greatness lies in achieving Self-awareness & Self-actualization.

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The point that I’m trying to make is, that soft skills are a Bible to achieving greater success in life. But in order to do that, you need to have a personal definition of success – what success means to you. And when you do achieve success, what are you going to do with it, who’re the people you’d like to share your success with. And once you recognize your true calling, start. And when you start, you start now! Have goals, daily goals, weekly goals, monthly goals, yearly goals, and then keep going for it. Remember, if you don’t have a dream, that you’re eventually going to work for someone who does have a dream. People who don’t dream work for people who do, so it’s not bad to dream. What’s not good is when you don’t take responsibility of your own self and you let it happen to you. So kick the hell out of your routine & run, and then keep running.

Finally, if you want to make the most out of your life, and enjoy the fruits of it to the fullest, you must engage yourself in a never-ending quest for excellence. All the skills will automatically fall in place when you achieve a sense of realization, of responsibility towards self and towards others. There should be no such thing as impossible in your dictionary. Sow the seeds, water them consistently, and they will certainly bring a new life into your overall quality of life. So good luck, to all my readers, hope you keep making it happen!

“Big Things Have Small Beginnings”

Thoughts By

Gaurav Kalra, Life Skills Coach



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